Mostly Normal Mom

March 22nd, 2013

Impatient

Seriously. Can it be Spring now? Let's see if a new brand-new box of chalk can jump start it...

Also, I have no explanation for Freya's outfit. Maybe she's a trend-setter...

Poke-poke...

Then we attacked the snow with sticks. Because it deserved it. 

February 25th. 2013

Ghost Dancers

 

January 28th, 2013

Thaw

So I happened to step outside a few minutes ago and realized it's, like 50 some degrees outside??

Dog standing in puddle. I'm sure this ends well...

Jump!

Oops.

"Loud," Freya says of the water.

January 28th, 2013

Clean-up Crew

Working the levels: Freya does the table, Shire does the chairs, Penny does the floor. Mostly...

January 26th, 2013

PSA

This may be news to some of you, and not for others, but I felt that I had reached a point where I feel ready to put some things down. I know this comes as a shock to many people, and it's easy to feel disoriented and demoralized. I hope that I can find a way to communicate some details to assuage these feelings.

Stewart and I are separating. This is a decision we made back in October, and we've been living with this decision and adjusting our lives accordingly since then. This is not a knock-down, drag-out, burn the bridges kind of situation. This was us (the two of us) finally come to terms with the fact that we do not really work together: specifically, we were not treating each other well and we were not effectively parenting. Nothing (I mean nothing) is more important to me (or Stew) than the quality of our children's lives. And while change like this is scary—it's the scariest thing that I've ever done—I'm able to go forward because I know in my heart that I want the girls to be happy, and part of that means that they deserve to have a mother who is happy.

No matter what, we are thinking of our children first. Our current situation looks like this:

• We each have our own bedroom upstairs.

• I stay home with the girls during the day (like I always have).

• Evenings with the girls are split between Stewart and me, largely to account for the fact that I now have part-time job and am taking a class in the evenings. We also try to arrange some free time for ourselves in the evenings.

• We still do things all together as a family when schedules allow (like taking Shire to “Charlotte's Web” or visit family over the holidays or going to birthday parties, etc)

• We are planning on meeting with a lawyer to officially file for separation in the near future.

• Divorce comes after that, but there are many legal/financial ramifications that need to be worked out before we would consider taking this step. Emotionally and mentally, we are prepared for this.

• We are planning on all living in the house for the foreseeable future, and ideally someone will keep the house.

• I know it's hard for people to picture how two people would continue to live together and not be married. But that's what we're doing. We're still there for each other (in a friend capacity) if someone is having a hard day. We do our best to be nice to each other (for lack of another word). And now that we're not trapped under the weight of a failing marriage, I feel that we both are able to just breathe easier. Tensions are not high, hackles are not raised, and tempers are not flared. It's pretty good stuff.

Meanwhile, life goes on. I'm doing a fairly good job of accepting myself. I know (in my heart) that we're are all going to come out of this okay, and that is a great comfort for an anxiety-prone person like me. It's been hard for me to feel like I've lost the support of people around me. I know this comes from lack of understand, not necessarily lack of love. But it's still there, palpably.

I hope that this helps you understand our situation, and that with understanding can maybe come acceptance. This may not be the path that you would have chosen, but it is the path that we chose. If this is the first you're hearing about this, I hope that I've managed to communicate this is a respectful, thoughtful way. If you already knew this, maybe we can start fresh?

Please feel free to comment or ask questions anonymously, and I will to my best to respond. And now, back to our regularly scheduled mostly-normal life. 

 

January 24th, 2013

This and That

This is why I don't work at home.

Both girls love PhotoBooth.

Shire had her second dentist appointment. Her teeth look really good, other than the overbite she's developing because of the thumb sucking. (sigh) I guess we'll keep working on that. 

And here's Freya, 23 months old today. 1 month until the big 2. 

Here's Shire around the same age.

January 17th, 2013

Hair Dos 

File this under the "preparation for 4k" file as well: hair styles! Also, if you didn't know, I (in the recent past) cut off all my hair. 

January 15th, 2013

Growing Forward

So, prepared to be flabbergasted: I will be signing Shire up for 4K (four-year-old Kindergarten) in less than a month. A-ma-zing. It seems impossible that one of my girls is almost school-age, but at the same time, she's so ready for it.

The approaching school enrollment has got me thinking more creatively about educational things to do with Shire during the day (especially when the baby is napping). I'm also trying to make use of things that I've collected over the years. So here's the latest idea.

I have a large stash of "squeezie pouch" lids, which I've been trying to find use for. I mean, they're colorful and interesting looking. I've just never found a purpose for them. 

So I found a couple of shoelaces, and we played today with them, making necklaces. It gave us a chance to work on pattern recognition (an early math skill) and fine-motor skill. 

Doesn't she look big? 

October 16th, 2012

Raking, Jumping, Making

October 1st, 2012

Lunch Time